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Tuesday, July 20, 2010

DRU DAY!!!

Do you have a middle child? I do. In every sense of the word... I do. Bless her sweet little heart, I love my Estella Dru to pieces, but that girl can push my buttons like no other. She is precious, loving, beautiful... a pro at turning on the water works for no good reason and a champion whiner. Every morning I wake up ready to "deal" with whatever she throws my way. And then I realized just that... I wake up ready for her to mess up. I remember the way she acted the day before that and the day before that and literally wait for her to do something wrong. And when she does... I have all those past mistakes in mind.

I was praying last night and thought... what if God was like me? What if He dealt with me based on my past screw ups? Wow. I doubt He would even look my way. He shouldn't.

A few years ago, Belle woke up and got in bed with me. I was holding her and playing with her, and she looked up at me and said, "Mommy, why do you like us so much in the mornings?" It stopped me cold. She was right! I do like them more in the mornings because they haven't had a chance to be bad yet! But the fact that she formed that thought... it hit me hard. Thank God His mercies for us are new every morning. I need to be more like Him. Much more.

So today, I woke up and instead of waiting on my middle child to make a mistake, I pulled her into bed with me, hugged on her, told her I loved her and how awesome she is, and declared July 20th as DRU DAY in the Slaughter house. If only you could have seen her little face. She was beside herself. It is now the afternoon, and that child has yet to do one thing that requires discipline. She has been nothing but sweet, kind, and a joy to have. Wow. Really makes me stop and think.

Estella Dru's favorite color is blue. She may be a little obsessed with it. So we have had a blue theme today. We began with a photo shoot in the backyard with a BLUE dress. And let me tell you... she worked it. (In this first one, she's showing off her BLUE silly bands.)



And then she decided to do a wardrobe change. We got this little bathing suit at a consignment store here in Springdale, and she thinks it is the most beautiful thing she has ever seen. She hangs it on a hook next to her bed and stares at it, waiting until we go to the beach so she can show it off. And I only paid $6, so I sort of love it, too. It is pretty fabulous.



Next... we made BLUE and white cupcakes with BLUEberries. It got a little crazy....







For the rest of the day, she is in charge of the remote and can pick what "activities" we do this afternoon. She feels so special.

I think it's awesome to pray scripture over your children. Estella Dru has her very own verse. Phil 2:14-16a... changed up just a little. I pray that Estella will do everything without complaining or arguing, so that she may become blameless and pure, a child of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which she shines like stars in the universe as she hold out the word of life.... (By the way, "Estella" means "star.")

So, here's my challenge to the mommies. If you have your very own middle child (or whatever ever order they came!) who is pushing your nerves to the brink, devote a day to them. Remind them how special and loved they are and go out of your way to show them in creative ways. I think you will be amazed at the result.

9 comments:

Erica said...

Oh, boy, do I have a middle child also! He brings me to tears at least once a week! I've been trying that lately too-- just making sure to love him extra and put him first no matter how busy I am and it has helped. I tried a special day for him... and then the oldest was extremely jealous that he didn't get a day. So then I had a day for him. And then the middle child didn't feel so "special" anymore. Ahhhh! :)

Paula said...

I feel your pain! My son is the middle child between a 9YO little girl with Cerebral Palsy (who requires a lot of time and attention) and a 2YO little girl. I, too, find that I am just waiting for him to act up...knowing that it's coming. And, no, that isn't fair of me, is it? Strangely, I find that our temperaments are more alike than anything.

I always wondered why he was this way because, in fact, he gets to do more than the oldest and the youngest by far as far as going places with daddy or getting special toys or treats. Then, one of the moms at my mom's group told me that he is probably begging for attention from ME! I'm like, seriously, ME? So, this time, daddy stayed home with the girls and I took him to lunch and a movie...just the two of us. He enjoyed it a lot and I did notice some improvement in his attitude.

One on one, the kid is an angel. I mean, you can't ask for a more sweet child. But....as soon as his little sister is around, he is so mean and nasty. I guess it is because, when is older sister was at school, and before I had the youngest, it was just the two of us doing everything together. I think he misses that.

Yes, it's tough for a mom of three (or more) to be able to single out one on one time with each of her children, but it definitely helps.

By the way, thanks for this reminder about how God deals with His children! Also, your little girl is a doll!

Leslie said...

ANGELA! The way you explained how u wake up in the morning is ME with Ryan (middle child). I wake up everyday READY for her. I've always thought it was a coincidence she is the middle child and her personality but I guess there is such thing as "middle child syndrome"! Crazy! BTW, Ryan has the same swimsuit in a different pattern that I cannot keep clean! She never wants to wear any of the others. :-)

Boni said...

Angela! That is so awesome.

Hannah turned three and WOWZA! She became so hard to deal with. I am going to have to try this!

I am also glad to know that I am not the only Mommy that is grouchy and can be a little "hard to handle" myself sometimes.

You are a great mom! If you think of anything else you have done to keep the "middle-child syndrome" from rearing it's head, let me know.

Elizabeth said...

I need to try this! I've been so frustrated with my middle, and oftentimes it hits me that maybe I am the problem in some way. LIke he needs more from me. I am always amazed at how much more he talks when we're alone. Totally makes sense that he gets upstaged by his sisters. I may have to prepare myself beforehand, but it'll be worth it!

Leanne said...

I love this idea! How special she must have felt! I would love to do this with both of my girls! Thank you for another wonderful post & idea!

Cindy said...

I am a middle child - oh and I really AM a middle child!!! I wish someone would have given me a day - even now sometimes I still wish someone would give me a day - all the nurturing in the world I do for everyone else and never a day for me:( Ha!

What a super idea and I'm sure she will remember it always - How are you going to top it next year??

Now I wonder if you are going to have to make a special day for the other two litle kiddos:)

You are a wonderful momma:)
Blessings!

Nel said...

What a great post! And a wonderful idea. Your kids are all precious!
until next time... nel

Anonymous said...

daughter is so fucking sexy.

masturbating furiously and imagining her tight little pussy